There is a lot of stress related with losing your job.
How will we pay the bills? Will we have to relocate for a new job? What about health insurance? How am I going to find a new job? And lots of other worries that will cause pain for the adults involved.
Becoming unemployed means a lot more than the loss of income, it can affect your children’s performance in school, in some cases it can result in your child having to repeat a grade.
The amount of stress and harm job loss can have on your children in part depends on how you deal with it, especially in front of your children.
Letting your children see your stress, worry and even the spousal conflicts can increase the likelihood of stress and emotional problems for your children.
Here are some tips I found on various blogs that may help children of unemployed parents:
- Talk with your children Let them know about the changes you have to deal with. Share this information in a positive and hopeful manner. You’ll be surprised about how they will handle it if you discuss with them in a positive manner.
- Stay positive Not only will this be beneficial for your children, but it will help you as well.
- Don’t fight in front of the kids I can’t tell you not to fight, (I suggest you communicate rather than fight), but if you must get in a heated debate do it as far away from your children as you can.
- Use your added free time to help kids with their studies Let your children benefit from your new availability. Help them study, read and even play.
- Make weekends and summer vacation fun Take the kids to the park, the playground, the library. There are plenty of outings that don’t cost a cent.
- Investigate Freebies You have to look for them in your community, but they exist. Ask, don’t be ashamed of not having income, take advantage of the community support and then when you get your income back up, offer to help others in return.
- Manage your stress Regular exercise can help lift your spirits and reduce stress – your children will see the benefits it provides you.
- Become part of a faith community If you are not a member of a church, temple or mosque, plan to attend services this week with your family. Having a group of people praying for you and your children can be great encouragement. This is also a great place to network for employment opportunities.
Finally – pay attention to the changes your unemployment have on your children.
What suggestions do you have? What worked, what did not work for you and your children while you were unemployed.