Finding your ness

I watched a movie last night called ‘You, Me and Dupree.’ (Actually, I fell asleep in the middle of it, but got the gist!) In the final scene, Dupree is talking about finding your ‘ness’ and suggests that this is what life is all about. According to him, once you find your ‘ness’ – the essence of who you are – the rest is easy!

Birds, trees, dogs, cats, insects… they don’t have to find their ‘ness’ because they already have it. A bird is a bird, a tree is a tree etc., etc. They are each happy in their birdness, treeness, dogness…

Babies and young children still have it. Their baby-ness and child-ness is what makes them so endearing. But being the complex creatures we are, many of us have lost this sense of ourselves somewhere along the way.

I think the cause of many of the ills of society – alcoholism, depression, drug abuse, suicide, self-harm – can be attributed to the fact that people are feeling a deep need to feed their souls and don’t know how to go about it. They are yearning for their ‘ness’ and are searching in all the wrong places.

So, how do you rediscover the essence of who you are? How do you reconnect with your ‘ness’ so that you can follow your true path?

Go back to basics.

It’s inside you and the way to find it is to stop looking and allow the stillness to envelop you. It takes practice and for most of us it’s a life long journey. But the journey within is really the only journey worth taking. It leads to your ‘ness’, your soul, the essence of who you really are… and that’s when the journey really begins!

– Eileen Bennett

Republished with permission from Nigel Alston of Motivational Moments

Author: NCWiseman

I am a Networking Strategist and LinkedIn coach and Trainer. I live by my personal edict, "Networking is finding, developing and nurturing relationships that mutually move people forward thru life." I want to help people become better Networkers and better LinkedIn users focused on their business and career goals.