A good friend of mine sent this to me:
P.A.S.T. – (Preparing a Smooth Transition)
“Sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead”- Philippians 3:13
The following is a tool offered to those facing life choices that involve the possibility of moving on, leaving behind, and/or making a life transition.
- Get Still – Center yourself. Listen. Hear your own thoughts and the words of your maker. Understand what it is that is stirring you and why you are being prompted to make a move. Make sure that it is more than just restlessness, boredom or resentment.
- Be “going TO” not “running From”– Where is it that you are going? What is it that you hope to achieve? Be sure that you are moving towards something not just trying to escape an unhappy situation. Remember, where ever you go you will be taking yourself. Be certain that you are moving toward a future not merely leaving the past.
- Develop a plan of Escape – Perhaps you need to save a cushion amount of money. Perhaps you need to pay down debt or pay off your car. Having systems in place and a plan to carry out will be the difference between traveling with a tour guide and going somewhere new unprepared. Will your new venture require any capital? How much time will realistically lapse before you see return? Give yourself time to leave correctly.
- Seek Advice and Collaborate – Do your research. What is the market and the competition on your new idea? Talk with a financial adviser, your Pastor and your friends about your ideas. Collaborate with those who can aid your adventure; perhaps an artist, a website designer or a proof reader. Research others who are in the field and determine what they did successfully and what you wish to avoid. Count the cost before you start. Know what you are getting into as best as you can (of course, there will be surprises).
- Avoid Negative Talk- This includes self-talk as well as what you say to others. Speak positively about where you are going and about your hopes and dreams rather than negatively about what you left behind. Leave the past in the past. Move on. Do not allow others to criticize or “tell you so” or rain on your parade either.
- Purge and Cleanse – Perhaps you can take clothing and trappings from your old position to a clothing closet, goodwill or a consignment shop. Give away what no longer fits your definition of yourself. This will help you close the door and move forward. You may need to purge negative friends and colleagues as well. Clean out your cell phone address book. Purge yourself of negative attitudes, fear of failure or insecurities. Get rid of all that excess weight and excess baggage.
- Develop footsteps or memory stones – These are small goals to mark achievement along the path that you can look back upon and know that you are moving forward toward your goal. It is a good idea to keep a journal to read to encourage yourself and to jog your memory in times of doubt or confusion. Remember to be flexible. Transition is accomplished on paths made of shifting sand not inscribed in concrete.
- Celebrate – Invite friends over for a transition party. Get a haircut. Buy a new tool or piece of equipment needed for your dream venture. That could be a paintbrush, a laptop, some business cards or whatever will denote that you are serious and you are investing.
Keep celebrating every little milestone or step forward. Celebrate the new you by dressing for success every day. Look like a person on a mission rather than a person who gave up on themselves.
- Apply Grace – To yourself, to others. You will make mistakes and have to rethink your plan. You may even have a few false starts. Learn from your errors, forgive yourself and move on. Some of the most fabulous discoveries start out looking like a failure. Transition requires thick skin and assurance of faith.
- Advertise Yourself – Get out there. Share your new venture with friends and family. Look for opportunities to put your name and your idea out there. You are your best salesperson. If you don’t believe in yourself or in your idea, who will? Invest in yourself and be willing to spend some time, effort and money in the process. Don’t be embarrassed to ask for help or for support from those who love you. You may be surprised at the members of your “Encouragement Entourage” and of how proud they are of you.
- Relax and Relinquish Control – Your new life is dynamic, living, breathing and forward moving. Let go and let it flow, let it grow and let it take on the life that it expresses. Don’t allow your dream to become stagnant or stale. Do not sit, soak and sour. Reinvest in yourself as you continually reinvent yourself and discover new talents, gifting and abilities. Be a mentor, write an article, and share your story with others. Be living water and a channel of blessing in the lives of others. Find ways to pay it forward when your blessings start pouring in. Develop a grateful heart and an attitude of thanksgiving.
(Copyright @Becoming All God Created Ministries- Cinthia W. Pratt)
Republished with permission from Cynthia Pratt and http://fearfullywonderfullywoman.webs.com/