- Difficulty swallowing
- Dry mouth
- Fast heartbeat
- Inability to concentrate
- Muscle aches
- Muscle tension
- Nervous energy
- Rapid breathing
- Shortness of breath
“Worry empties today of it’s joy.” unknown
Worry solves nothing
During any change in life, including the loss of a job, worry rears it’s ugly head and begins to chew away at your life.
It’s important to remember:
Worry solves nothing.
It steals your time, your energy, your desire, your ability to think logically and deliberately. Worry prohibits you from coming up with ideas, plans, solutions and activities that can actually solve a problem, regardless of what the problem is.
Worry solves nothing.
This quick little article is not intended to help you handle worry, but instead to get you to think about some ways you can handle worry. How can you put worry in it’s place, as far away from you as you can push it?
You can learn to handle worry, not make it go away, but handle it, by reading good books, listening to good seminars, praying, helping others, spending time with positive people and making decisions in advance, just to name a few ideas that you may be able to do.
You can learn to handle worry by focusing your energy, time, passion, thoughts, activities and words on positivity in everything you do, say, think, ponder and write.
Since worry solves nothing, I encourage you to find a way to handle worry. If you can come up with four or five deliberate and recurring methods of doing this on your own, here a few resources that I think may help:
Your Bible, Torah, Koran or other similar religious books
Visit good people in your Church, Synagogue, Temple, etc.
Listen to children playing on a playground, good music, a comedian, etc.
Again, I don’t want to pretend that the ideas I have for handling worry will work for you, we are all different people with different ideals, thought, resources and people in our lives.
However – I can only pray that you’ll find a way to help yourself deal with worry, because:
Worry Kills and Worry solves nothing.
Job Search is like riding a Roller coaster. The different phases of this ride are expected and can be handled if you work thru it.
The most important think you can do is know where you are on this ride. Being in one of the valleys of Shock, Anger or Depression is not necessarily a bad thing, if you know you are there and that you have ideas, activities and/or plans to move you back up the hill.
One way to navigate this roller coaster is to talk with others about where you are and how you feel. When you are not able to vocalize how you feel, write. Writing down you feelings, fears and what you want to do is a great stress reliever and idea machine.
What other ways have you dealt with the roller coaster ride of job search.
Recently we asked a dozen or so Job Seekers to tell us what causes them stress while they are out of work and looking for a new job. It was an interesting conversation with most agreeing to many different issues causing stress. They shared issues including:
- Lack of income
- Depleting their savings, IRA or retirement
- Being removed from the working folks
- Lack of good routine
- Uncertainty of change
- Frustration of the process
- No Social or professional stimulation
- Rejection after rejection
- Having to learn new technology
- Dealing with building the right resume
- Having to meet and talk with new people, especially if they are not used to doing this
- Not getting anything worthwhile accomplished
- Pressure from family and friends
- People thinking they are less of a person because they are unemployed
- Not knowing the best steps to find a new job
What adds to your stress being unemployed?
We then asked this same group for ideas toward dealing with these stresses. They said:
- Don’t go shopping or buy items that they can do without
- Spend time with their family
- Get involved in various support groups (see Triad Job Search Network)
- Don’t be alone
- Get involved in public groups
- Meet someone new every day
- Join a Gym or at least go for a walk every day
- Volunteer anywhere you can
- Stive to be positive (read good attitude books or blogs)
- Plan to achieve your goals
- Set Goals that can move you along on your journey of finding a job
What do you do to reduce your unemployment stress?
Someone in the conversation pointed out that letting stress get to you reduces your desire to do anything and this in turn reduces your productivity.
Another member of the discussion shared that recruiters, HR Managers, networking contacts and potent employers can see stress on you if you don’t manage it properly. Put your troubles in the trunk of the car when you go to talk with someone about that next job or opportunity. Put on a smile and “buck up”. Once you are done with the conversation open the trunk and get your troubles back out and handle them appropriately.
Finally, find a good book that can help you deal with the stress of being unemployed. Dale Carnegie’s book, “How to stop worrying and start living” is a great book to read.