Don’t let your Network Die

My Network DiedDon’t let your network die because you did not care enough to take care of it.

If you build your network properly, it can become one of the your most valuable assets.

A car can be replaced, computers are just commodity items, cell phones get replaced every two years and even your house is replaceable, ask your insurance agent.

Your network is built one person and relationship at a time. You can’t borrow someone else’s network, you can’t pickup a new network at the local big box store, and I doubt Lloyds of London will insure your network.

A dying network can not help you, nor the people in your network. A dying network is almost always terminal. Few people have been able to revive a dying network.

Therefore you need to do everything you can to make sure your network thrives so that it never dies.

Here are five activities that if executed properly will help your network to thrive.

#1 – Focus on helping your network
When you focus on helping your network the indisputable laws of karma will always return the favors to you. There are three different focal points that are important for a thriving network. 
A – Always offer to help your network. 
B – You can ask your network to help another person, for the right reasons. 
C – You can ask your network to help you directly, only if you have first focused on points A & B.

#2 – Connect your contacts to each other
Your network will thrive if you introduce your connections to each other regularly and with honest purpose. Just because two people are in your network does not mean they know each other or how they can help each other. Because you know your network, you can connect two people who can potentially benefit by the introduction.
#3 – Treat your network with care and respect
A strong and thriving network requires that you treat it with respect. This means you can’t abuse your relationship with your network. Abuse includes inappropriate introductions, bombarding your network with irrelevant requests, spamming your network, even talking ill of members of your network to other members. Gossip and negative engagement with your network can kill it off faster than a plague.

#4 – Keep your network growing
If your network is not growing regularly, it is apt to start dying off. You grow your network by performing the activities in this article and when appropriate, asking it’s members to introduce you to others who you can help and/or who can help you. This “ask” assumes that you have first focused on helping your network. If your network knows that you care and want to help them, they will eagerly introduce you to new connections so that your network can continue to grow. 

#5 – Touch your network regularly
A thriving network is one that you touch regularly. A large network can not be seen in real life as often as we would like, therefore we must use other tools and activities to touch our network. Social media helps us to do this, but by itself this is not enough. Schedule time every week to reach out to individuals in your network via phone, email, paper letter, invitation to lunch, dinner or breakfast. Be unique and different when you can. The more you touch your network, the more it will thrive. 

These are just a few ways to help your network thrive so that it never dies.
Do you have any unique ways of helping your network thrive?

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I Demand Control of my Social Media Content

Social Media ContentI Want to Control My Social Media Content!

I hear this all the time, “I don’t want to use (pick one – Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, YouTube, etc) because I don’t want someone else to control my content.”

This is one of the biggest fears people have about using social media.  There are only three things you can do to be able to both understand how your content is used and control it yourself:

  1. Read the Privacy Statements
  2. Read the Terms of Service
  3. Manage and Adjust your settings

In order to make this easier for you, here are the Privacy Statements of Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Google+

Here are the Terms of Service Statements for Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Google+

In order to manage your Social Media Content on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Google+ work, you will need to review your settings and make decisions for yourself how to adjust these settings. Here are the links to each of these social media platform settings.

Lastly – You still don’t know what to do. Check out the help sections of these social media platforms

Ok – If you want to control your Social Media Content

OK – so you want to use social media and you want to control your content. You have to read the Privacy Statement, Terms of Service, adjust your own social media settings and when needed look for help. Read thru these documents and adjust your settings in a manner that suites your needs. Everyone is different, so make setting decisions that work for you and how you use them.

Lastly – if you still need help with your Social Media Content, contact me and let’s find a way I can help you directly.

FTCC HRD – LinkedIn for Job Seekers – Class #4

Who are you on your career transition

Day 3 class notes for FTCC HRD

Resource – – Check out O*NET Online (scroll down to it). I do not know a lot about this resource right now, so, I encourage you to experience and experiment.  I will look for training resources so I can get more aware of it’s value to job seekers. – Review this article. The ideas here can help you to craft better experience descriptions as well as better resumes.

I hope you each learned a lot from the class.  Please reach out to me if I can help you in any way.  Good luck on your career transition journey. /Teddy

Day 1 & 2 class notes for FTCC HRD

It was great to work with all of you tonight (9/3/13) at the Social Media for Job Seekers Class. You asked me 2 questions tonight #1 – how to get rid of duplicate LinkedIn profiles – read this article Duplicate Profiles #2 – Tell me more about the Job Search Resources (local groups to help job seekers) I volunteer at the Career Support Network that meets on Wednesdays from Noon – 2pm.

I hope you have benefited from the first FTCC HRD Class

Here are some articles that would be good to read: Don’t try to do all of this at once. Pace yourself *** – the most useful articles for new LinkedIn users

Your FTCC HRD Home work for tomorrow is:

  1. Connect with Teddy Burriss ( on LinkedIn
  2. Begin to build your LinkedIn Profile.
  3. Ask me any questions via LinkedIn Messages (inbox) if you need to.

Another LinkedIn Connection Request Failure

LinkedIn Connection Request Failure

Here is the thread from one of my most recent LinkedIn Connection Request Failures.

The guy never heard a thing I said to him.

I changed his name to protect his identity.

On August 29, 2013 10:20 PM, Making Mistakes wrote:
I’d like to add you to my professional network on LinkedIn.
– Making Mistakes

On 08/30/13 08:19AM, Teddy Burriss wrote:
Hello Making.
Please remind me where have we met and how can I help you.
Have a great weekend

On 08/30/13 6:48 AM, Making Mistakes wrote:
Hi Teddy! I reached out to you because of your profile. My company is looking to recruit 100 people in the next two weeks.

We are an internet marketing firm, offering work at home opportunities, as we gear up for the launch of our new mobile app in September.

If you would like me to send you information on how you might be considered for one these work at home positions, just send your email to my inbox. If not please pardon the intrusion.

Sent from LinkedIn for iPhone

On 08/30/13 09:59AM, Teddy Burriss wrote:
No thank you.

I strongly encourage you to connect with people, get to know who they are and what they do before you start asking them for anything.
I am now forced to mark your LI Connect request as SPAM.
Learn to do this correctly.

On 08/30/13 7:09 AM, Making Mistakes wrote:
That is your prerogative Mr. Burriss. I contacted you because we felt that you had skills that could benefit the readers of our blogs. Please pardon the intrusion.
Sent from LinkedIn for iPhone

On 08/30/13 11:06AM, Teddy Burriss wrote:
Making – be consistent, this is not what you said in your first message, “We are an internet marketing firm, offering work at home opportunities, as we gear up for the launch of our new mobile app in September. ”

You can not do this on social media. Doing this type of activity is spamming and totally inappropriate.

I am a social media coach and am deliberate about my activity on LinkedIn. If you need coaching please let me know. I can help you if you are willing to learn how to do this correctly.


Blog Author Note:

Watch this – He goes even further into a LinkedIn Connection Request Failure

On 08/30/13 8:17 AM, Making Mistakes wrote:
There is no doubt that you know more about my industry than I do Sir, again that is why I contacted you. I am not spamming you, I am conversing with you.

I am recruiting for the Dream Team of the Empower Network. I wish you would check out this video from our founder, not as a potential customer, but as an expert in the industry. I really welcome your feedback.
Thank you and again, please forgive the intrusion.
Sent from LinkedIn for iPhone

On 08/30/13 1:39 PM, Teddy Burriss wrote:
Making – your messages and manner of communicating with me is not an intrusion. You miss my point. Your methodology is not going to work for you.

Furthermore, sending me a link to a video from a guy in front of a home that smacks of conspicuous consumption, with income disclaimers and refund policies listed on the front page also gives me the perception that the products & services are not as real as the messages & videos are intended to lead me to believe.

Robert – I am a social networking communications consultant. I teach relationship building using social media. I teach people not to do what you insist on doing:

Not once have you inquired as to who I am.
Not once have you mentioned anything you learned from my profile or any of my other social networking profiles.
Not once have you asked me about my business
Not once have you inquired as to how you could help me in any way
Your LinkedIn profile shows a recent grad who used to work for Amex (?) and says nothing about the stuff you are hawking through the un-invited messages to people who don’t trust and respect you.
You are not following the terms & conditions of XYZ, since no where in your messages to me did you identify yourself as an XYZ Affiliate. ( Mistakes#do-dont)

All you want to do is entice me to look at your videos and get all gaga about what you do.

I teach Networking for Mutual Benefit and using Social Media to build relationships. This is how I have gotten successful in life and able to live the type of lifestyle that I enjoy today. Never have I had to use this type of communications with the hopes of luring someone into a conversation about a product or service.

I wish you lots of success in the MLM you have chosen to participate in. I have no problems with transparent, honest and open MLM programs; however when the MLM starts with watch a video from some guy living in a big house and the website has disclaimers and refund statements on the front page – I have to consider it less than mutually beneficial.

I have taken up far too much of your time since I know your upstream guys are telling you to ignore me and move on to the next person.

Please accept my apologies for wanting to coach a young professional to be better and different.

Ps – as a Career Transition Coach I see lots of unemployed folks getting lured into these MLM programs every day. Unless you are passionate about the product and work you are told to do – it’s not going to work. Promises of great wealth is not the reason to start a job or business.

Have a good weekend.

Blog Author Note – I hoped he would hear me, but he doesn’t

He continues with a LinkedIn Connection Request Failure

On 08/31/13 1:17 AM, Making Mistakes wrote:

Thank you so much for your reply Mr. Burriss. It really is much appreciated. I am so sorry that I offended you.

The product of XYZ is internet marketing via SEO education. The delivery of our product is through our viral blogging system. XYZ is not a multi-level marketing business, it is an affiliate marketing system.

As you know, search engines search for text and not video, which is why Google purchased YouTube. The XYZ strategy is to write our blogs based on keyword search and place, video in each blog for this new generation that does not read.

God has given everyone a gift and talent to share with the world. Empower gives everyone that ability, and know how, that has been reserved for select few, like yourself, until now. We are a network of entrepreneurs that daily share our expertise to the world, with the goal of positioning ourselves as the expert online. Empower teaches you how to make money doing this while teaching others to do it. I was just hoping you would share your expertise on your network

My business is not blogging, my business is real estate and insurance, but God told me that for this business, He is the product. My personal page with my Blogs is Jesus was a Carpenter, Paul was a Tentmaker, Luke was a doctor. My blogs are going to focus on believers in the marketplace, along with my real estate, and economic expertise.

The reason for the long note to show my intention was not to offend but to show you something that could possibly enhance what you are already doing.

Thank you and God Bless.

I opted not to engage with any further.

Please don’t make LinkedIn Connection Request Failures

What would you have done?

Here is another example of LinkedIn Connection Request Failure

LinkedIn connection requests require an email address – OOPS

LinkedIn Connection Requests

LinkedIn connection requestsThere are three reasons why you could be required to use an email address when sending LinkedIn connection requests

  1. The LinkedIn member you are trying to connect with requires this
  2. You have exceeded the number of LinkedIn connection requests you are allowed to use with the relationship option of “Friend”
  3. A number of LinkedIn members have clicked “I don’t know this person” when they received your LinkedIn connection request.

Few LinkedIn members set their profiles to connect with Email address only, therefore most of the time this requirement stems from using the Friend option to often and worse yet, when Friend is not the most relevant relationship option to use.

There is a way to withdraw a LinkedIn connection request; however it does not necessarily resolve the requirement for email address when sending “Friend” connection requests.

Additionally, if LinkedIn imposes a restriction because you have not been sending appropriate connection requests, you can ask for Forgiveness. It may work; however I have heard where it takes numerous attempts at begging for forgiveness before the restriction gets lifted.

Best Practices for LinkedIn connection requests

For these reasons I recommend the following:

  • Never use the relationship option of “Friend” unless you have met face to face and giggled about something. Likely you are really friends if you have giggled together.
  • If you know the LinkedIn member’s email address, always use “Other” and the email address. This is the most specific option and likely the most relevant.
  • Only use “Classmate” if you knew the LinkedIn member when you both were in the school you selected, or if you can write a very specific personal note for the LinkedIn member you are trying to connect with.
  • Only use “Colleague” if you knew the LinkedIn member when you both worked at the company you select, or again, if you can write a compelling personal note.
  • Only use “We’ve done business together” if the LinkedIn member you are trying to connect with was involved in the project you worked on.
  • Only use “Group” if the other five options are not more relevant.

Make your LinkedIn connection requests work for you

If you are deliberate about your connection request activity you will not be blacklisted by LinkedIn and forced to use an email address for all “Friend” connection requests.

Make connecting beneficial, relevant, transparent and easy.

If you want more information about how to connect on LinkedIn, read this article – How to Make LinkedIn connections

LinkedIn Connections with Interviewers

LinkedIn Connections with Interviewers

LinkedIn ConnectionsWade S. asked me two questions today about:

LinkedIn Connections with Interviewers and Recruiters

#1 – Before an interview should I send a LinkedIn connection request to the hiring manager, interviewer or recruiter?


#2 – After an interview should I send a LinkedIn connect request to the interviewers?

The answer to both questions is Yes, make LinkedIn Connections with interviewers, recruiters, hiring managers and HR professionals, under the standard conditions of connecting on LinkedIn.

First of all, I encourage you to connect with anyone you meet in life, career, business or community who are relevant to you and what you do or want to do. All of the people you meet during your job search, including recruiters, interviewers and hiring managers are relevant to you, therefore they should make good LinkedIn connections.

Often I hear this, “I did not get the job, they won’t want to connect with me.” This is not completely true. It could be true, but only if you and the interviewer did not get along at all during the interview. However, if the interview went well and you were a good candidate the interviewer, recruiters and/or hiring managers would likely want to connect in case another opportunity arises.

Making LinkedIn Connections

Therefore, I encourage you make the LinkedIn connections in this way:

#1 – Before the interview, if you know the email addresses of the individuals you are interviewing with, send them a LinkedIn connection request. Let them know in the Personal Note box that you look forward to meeting them during the interview process.

#2 – After the interview, if you know the email address of the individuals you met with, send them a LinkedIn connection request and thank them for the opportunity to discuss the position.

In both instances, ask for nothing beyond the connection. LinkedIn connection requests are only to be used to make connections.

Who knows, you may be able to help the recruiter, interviewer or hiring manager in some way, despite not getting the job. Be focused on making connections that are mutually beneficial and you never know what could happen.

Video – How to use LinkedIn Profile

LinkedIn Profile SectionsLinkedIn Profile Sections – improve your profile

Your LinkedIn Profile can be customized in many different ways.

One feature often underused are LinkedIn Profile Sections.

Here are the LinkedIn Profile Sections.

  • Experience
  • Education
  • Skills
  • Summary
  • Projects
  • Languages
  • Publications
  • Organizations
  • Honors & Awards
  • Test Scores
  • Courses
  • Patents
  • Certifications
  • Volunteering & Causes

The information you showcase in these LinkedIn Profile Sections should be relevant to your current position or career or to the job that you

Here is a little video with more information about LinkedIn Profile Sections


Your LinkedIn Profile Photo Gets you seen

LinkedIn Profile Photo will get you seen

LinkedIn Profile

So you don’t think you need a LinkedIn Profile Photo?

Lots of my connections have gotten new jobs, updated their LinkedIn profile or received recommendations. However the only ones that LinkedIn included in this message is the ones with a LinkedIn Profile Picture.

Don’t spend a lot of money getting a profile picture taken. Brush your hair, stand in a well lit area and put a smile on your face. Make sure the camera is at least as good as an Iphone or Droid (Hi-Res) (approx 450×450 pixels and < 4MB).

Here are three reasons to have a LinkedIn Profile picture

#1 – When you are seen in the public, the connections that you do not see often may recognize you

#2 – Having a Social Media Profile Picture is considered just a little vulnerable. It shows others that you want to connect. Many people perceive that not having a picture is like hiding.

#3 – When LinkedIn sends out it’s member activity your activity will be included in the graphical message. A great way to be heard, seen and perceived as a professional.

Get your LinkedIn Profile Picture now.

Look at this Listing of LinkedIn articles for more ideas of how to use LinkedIn better


Do you have a Social Media Success Story to share?

Social Media Success Story

We are waiting to hear your Social Media Success Story

Please share your Social Media Success Story with us.

While writing the book Success Using Social Media I collected lots of good social media stories. I will continue to collect and share these stories.

And I will be forever indebted to you for Sharing your Social Media Success Story with us.

This book is all about how individuals should contribute, collaborate and connect using social media. The focus of the book is engaging to create connections that turn into relationships that are mutually beneficial. It ties into my first book, “Networking for Mutual Benefit“.

The book is a compilation of all of the material that I have been teaching at Universities, Community Colleges, businesses, non-profits and to individuals for the past 4 years.

Do you have a Social Media Success Story you would be willing to share with us?

I’d love to hear your story about a new business relationship, a new job, even a fabulous social media group you joined that positively changed your life, career, business or community.

If you have this story, please email me the story –

If you want to see the stories that I’ve already collected, view this article – Social Media Success Stories.