An observation by George Carlin

My sister shared this on Facebook and I want to share it with you


george-carlinGeorge Carlin George Carlin’s wife died early in 2008 and George followed her, dying in July 2008. It is ironic George Carlin – comedian of the 70’s and 80’s – could write something so very eloquent and so very appropriate.

An observation by George Carlin:

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness. We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often. We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life not life to years. We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We’ve done larger things, but not better things. We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less. These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete.

Remember to spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever. Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side. Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent. Remember, to say, ‘I love you’ to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you. Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind. And always remember, life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by those moments that take our breath away. George Carlin

Worry solves nothing

Worry solves nothing“Worry empties today of it’s joy.” unknown

Worry solves nothing

During any change in life, including the loss of a job, worry rears it’s ugly head and begins to chew away at your life.

It’s important to remember:

Worry solves nothing.

It steals your time, your energy, your desire, your ability to think logically and deliberately. Worry prohibits you from coming up with ideas, plans, solutions and activities that can actually solve a problem, regardless of what the problem is.

Worry solves nothing.

This quick little article is not intended to help you handle worry, but instead to get you to think about some ways you can handle worry. How can you put worry in it’s place, as far away from you as you can push it?

You can learn to handle worry, not make it go away, but handle it, by reading good books, listening to good seminars, praying, helping others, spending time with positive people and making decisions in advance, just to name a few ideas that you may be able to do.

You can learn to handle worry by focusing your energy, time, passion, thoughts, activities and words on positivity in everything you do, say, think, ponder and write.

Since worry solves nothing, I encourage you to find a way to handle worry. If you can come up with four or five deliberate and recurring methods of doing this on your own, here a few resources that I think may help:

Norman Vincent Peale – Power of Positive Thinking

Dale Carnegies book – How to deal with worry and start living

Read quotes about why worry is not good for you

Your Bible, Torah, Koran or other similar religious books

Visit good people in your Church, Synagogue, Temple, etc.

Listen to children playing on a playground, good music, a comedian, etc.

Again, I don’t want to pretend that the ideas I have for handling worry will work for you, we are all different people with different ideals, thought, resources and people in our lives.

However – I can only pray that you’ll find a way to help yourself deal with worry, because:

Worry Kills and Worry solves nothing.



What you scatter creates life rewards

What you scatter creates life rewards

Rick McCraw sent this to me story and I thought it worthy of sharing with all of you

What you scatter creates life rewards

I was at the corner grocery store buying some early potatoes… I noticed a small boy, delicate of bone and feature, ragged but clean, hungrily apprising a basket of freshly picked green peas.

I paid for my potatoes but was also drawn to the display of fresh green peas. I am a pushover for creamed peas and new potatoes.

Pondering the peas, I couldn’t help overhearing the conversation between Mr. Miller (the store owner) and the ragged boy next to me.

‘Hello Barry, how are you today?’

‘H’lo, Mr. Miller. Fine, thank ya. Jus’ admirin’ them peas. They sure look good’

‘They are good, Barry. How’s your Ma?’

‘Fine. Gittin’ stronger alla’ time.’

‘Good. Anything I can help you with?’

‘No, Sir. Jus’ admirin’ them peas.’

‘Would you like to take some home?’ asked Mr. Miller.

‘No, Sir. Got nuthin’ to pay for ’em with.’

‘Well, what have you to trade me for some of those peas?’

‘All I got’s my prize marble here.’

‘Is that right? Let me see it’, said Miller.

‘Here ’tis. She’s a dandy.’

‘I can see that. Hmm mmm, only thing is this one is blue and I sort of go for red. Do you have a red one like this at home?’ the store owner asked.

‘Not zackley but almost.’

‘Tell you what. Take this sack of peas home with you and next trip this way let me look at that red marble’. Mr. Miller told the boy.

‘Sure will. Thanks Mr. Miller.’

Mrs. Miller, who had been standing nearby, came over to help me.

With a smile she said, ‘There are two other boys like him in our community, all three are in very poor circumstances. Jim just loves to bargain with them for peas, apples, tomatoes, or whatever.

When they come back with their red marbles, and they always do, he decides he doesn’t like red after all and he sends them home with a bag of produce for a green marble or an orange one, when they come on their next trip to the store.’

I left the store smiling to myself, impressed with this man. A short time later I moved to Colorado, but I never forgot the story of this man, the boys, and their bartering for marbles.

Several years went by, each more rapid than the previous one. Just recently I had occasion to visit some old friends in that Idaho community and while I was there learned that Mr. Miller had died.

They were having his visitation that evening and knowing my friends wanted to go, I agreed to accompany them. Upon arrival at the mortuary we fell into line to meet the relatives of the deceased and to offer whatever words of comfort we could.

Ahead of us in line were three young men. One was in an army uniform and the other two wore nice haircuts, dark suits and white shirts…all very professional looking. They approached Mrs. Miller, standing composed and smiling by her husband’s casket.

Each of the young men hugged her, kissed her on the  cheek, spoke briefly with her and moved on to the casket. Her misty light blue eyes followed them as, one by one; each young man stopped briefly and placed his own warm hand over the cold pale hand in the casket. Each left the mortuary awkwardly, wiping his eyes.

Our turn came to meet Mrs. Miller. I told her who I was and reminded her of the story from those many years ago and what she had told me about her husband’s bartering for marbles. With her eyes glistening, she took my hand and led me to the casket.

‘Those three young men who just left were the boys I told you about.

They just told me how they appreciated the things Jim ‘traded’ them. Now, at last, when Jim could not change his mind about color or size….they came to pay their debt.’

‘We’ve never had a great deal of the wealth of this world,’ she confided, ‘but right now, Jim would consider himself the richest man in Idaho …’

With loving gentleness she lifted the lifeless fingers of her deceased husband. Resting underneath were three exquisitely shined red marbles.

The Moral:

We will not be remembered by our words, but by our kind deeds. Life is not measured by the breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath.

Today I wish you a day of ordinary miracles:

A fresh pot of coffee you didn’t make yourself.
An unexpected phone call from an old friend.
Green traffic lights when you drive.
The fastest line at the grocery store.
Your keys found right where you left them.

So, remember – What you scatter creates life rewards & tells what kind of life you have lived.

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TLB Presentation Videos – Desire, Attitude & Passion

These are the videos that I periodically use when I am discussion Desire, Attitude & Passion in life, business, career & community.

If you have some other ideas of videos that can help introduce Desire, Attitude & Passion for life, business, career & community, please let me know what they are.






Your Life Coach Team

Life Coach TeamI have a Life Coach Team.

You have a Life Coach Team.

We need to use our Life Coach Team.

Yes, we could hire a Life Coach. I know many professionals who are trained, experienced and trusted life coaches.

Just like individual life coaches, we can use our Life Coach Team for the same benefits.

Our Life Coach Team can help us thru life, career, business and community issues. Our Life Coach Team can help us make decisions, discover new ideas or perspectives that often we can’t find by ourselves. Our Life Coach Team can help us fine tune our life, career, business or community plans. Just about every important facet of our lives can be coached by our Life Coach Team.

Beyond these fabulous individuals, we all have a Life Coach Team available to us. Ready to help us when we need them.

Our Life Coach Team is made up of trained and experienced individuals. They are also certified and trusted in what they do and who they are.

Our Life Coach Team is not limited by any ages, professions, sexes, races, religions, marital statuses, education levels, economic or political categories.

Our Life Coach Team can be made up of our children, parents, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, grand parents, God children or God parents.

Our Life Coach Team consists of friends, business partners, fellow employees, our employers, community partners, pastor, priest, yoga coach, minister, bartender, nurse, hairstylist, grocery clerk, bus driver, taxi driver, next door neighbor and paper boy.

We get coaching from our Life Coach Team in many different ways.

We can get coaching from our Life Coach team while sitting at the breakfast table, waiting for the school bus, driving to work or hanging out on the deck or patio. Our Life Coach Team can coach us via phone, email, text, Facebook post, Google+ status, YouTube Video or Tweet. Often we get coaching from our Life Coach Team thru a card, letter, poem, haiku, hug or song.

Our Life Coach Team consists of everyone we talk to during our life. This coaching is delivered to us when we are having a conversation.

When we define conversation as it is on Wikipedia – “a form of interactive, spontaneous communication between two or more people who are following rules of etiquette. It is polite give and take of subjects thought of by people talking with each other for company.”

Start a conversation with a member of your Life Coach Team. Ask questions, listen, share and be willing to consider something new that your Life Coach Team shares with you.

When I learned to Network for Mutual Benefit, I discovered my Life Coach Team. This is because you create a great Life Coach Team when you learn to give first.

I’ll go ahead and publicly say it right now – Thank you to my Life Coach Team for all you have done for me.

I hope your Life Coach Team provides as much value to you as mine has provided to me.

How to create enthusiasm

Three girlfriends in white T-shorts jump togetherEnthusiasm can change your life

Enthusiasm makes stuff happen

Enthusiasm works

Often the stuff we have to deal with in life can squelch our enthusiasm.

Job seekers and anyone trying to make new connections thru their networking activity must have some enthusiasm about them.

So what do we do if we just are not enthusiastic?

How do we counter the lack of enthusiasm we may have? We all know that lots of things can drain us of energy and enthusiasm – our children are ill, our parents are dealing with a serious disease, the bills are piling up, the car needs to be repaired, our partner is not supporting us, the roof is leaking or any of the unimaginable number of negative and painful things that we have to deal with.

It’s not easy, but I think I have a few ideas that may help. Any chance we have to increase our enthusiasm, to make us just a little bit more upbeat, to but a little spring in our step and a bigger smile on our face, will help us when we are networking, interviewing and even when we are just trying to have an OK day.

Here are some basic ideas to consider:

  1. Call a friend who loves you and have a quick chat
  2. Pick up a baby and hug them. Tickle them and listen to the baby laugh
  3. Listen to your favorite music artist
  4. Read scripture or a psalm in the bible
  5. Read or listen to a poem
  6. Tell a joke to someone who laughs really loud
  7. Hug someone who you know needs a hug
  8. Call a friend you have not said hello to in a while and talk about what they are doing
  9. Ask a friend to hug you
  10. Look at a picture of someone you love and remember a time when the two of you played and laughed together.

How do you pump a little enthusiasm into yourself. Take your mind off the stuff that is dragging you down and focus on something that makes you happy, smile or laugh. Think about making yourself  just a little bit happier.  Your problems won’t go away, however you will feel better about yourself at that moment.

Once you take yourself thru one or more of these activities, head off to your interview, phone conversation or networking activity. Keep thinking about the happy stuff that helps you, even if just a little bit.

Strive to be a little more enthusiastic. The benefit will be that you will be a little more successful with the task in front of you.

If you want to take your enthusiasm to another level – read Dale Carnegie’s book – How to Stop Worrying and Start Living

When I learned about day-tight compartments and how to accept the worst thing that can happen to me, this book changed my life and elevated my enthusiasm and attitude to a completely new & better level.

If you have any other suggestions of how to be more enthusiastic, please comment belown

The Diversity of our life connections

DIversityDiversity is of our connections is important

Diversity creates opportunities and options

One of the greatest benefits of connecting with people in life can be the diversity of these connections.

There are many reasons that diversity can be beneficial to our lives.

Here are a few that I can think of quickly:

Diversity of our connections is what helps us to find new solutions to tasks, a new job, new business possibilities and new friends.

Diversity of our connections can help us find new products, resources, business tools and even employees.

Diversity of our connections can be a source of new conversations, music, books or movie ideas, vacation possibilities and even ideas for a different car, pet, hair style or home decorations.

Diversity can be fuel for a better life, career, business or community activities.

I could go on and on regarding the value of having diversity in our connections, both in real life as well as on social media.

However, if we are not careful we could throttle or limit this diversity. When we limit our connections to specific groups of people, we create barriers to the possibilities that diversity can create.

In early 2013 I talked with a young professional who told me this, “I will not connect with anyone on LinkedIn who is not a customer or potential customer. I don’t want to connect with people who can not become a client of mine.” I quietly wept when I heard this.

We have no idea how the diverse people in our lives can help us in our career, business or community. Limiting our connections limits the possibilities.

Another aspect of the diversity of our connections is that often we have no idea or control over how diverse the connections can become. Again, I feel that if we try to guide the diversity of our connections we will limit the benefits that a truly diverse circle of connections can provide us.

Regularly I get introduced to a new connection in a different industry, state or city by an existing connection that I had no idea could make this particular connection for me.

This is the power of diversity of our connections IRL as well as on social media.

Welcome Diversity in life and your connections.

You can’t turn a Negative into a Positive


Unlike what many of us say, we can’t turn a negative into a positive.

The negative already exists as a negative and can never become a positive.

We have to create the Positive.

We can take our understanding, our experience, our perception and our interaction with this negative and use it to guide us forward through life in a positive way.

Use the negatives in our life, be them simple, grandiose  personal, public, local, national or world wide, to guide our thoughts, actions and life in a positive manner.

Accept that negative occurs, it’s a fact of life. However, strive to create positive actions, activities, engagement and value in your life for you and others.

We have the ability to create positive stuff in our lives, if we are only willing to put the effort into it.

Work on creating Positive in your life every day.

The sum of all of our efforts will create positive in our world, despite the negatives that do exist.



Does your life fit you like a glove

Does your life fit you like a glove?Does your life fit you like a glove?

Is it important that your life fit you like a glove?

Could your life fit you like a glove?


We all have one in thing in common, we are all living human beings, living our lives.

However, this is where our similarities end.

  • Some of us are living lives that we only dreamed we would live.
  • Some of us are living lives that we are satisfied to be living.
  • Some of us are living lives that we hope will change soon.
  • Some of us are living lives that we would not wish on our worst enemies.

Like the gloves in this image, our lives fit us like gloves. Yet, some of us our gloves don’t fit quite as well as we would like.

When we find a glove that fits well, we are happy, satisfied living beings. If we have a glove that does not fit well, our happiness and satisfaction diminishes.

As human beings responsible for our own happiness, we are required to pick the best glove for our own lives. It may not be an easy task, but we must work to find a glove that fits better. IE – we must make sure that the lives we are living are best for the human being we are.

Does your life fit you like a glove? If not, what are you doing to correct this?