LinkedIn connection requests require an email address – OOPS

LinkedIn Connection Requests

LinkedIn connection requestsThere are three reasons why you could be required to use an email address when sending LinkedIn connection requests

  1. The LinkedIn member you are trying to connect with requires this
  2. You have exceeded the number of LinkedIn connection requests you are allowed to use with the relationship option of “Friend”
  3. A number of LinkedIn members have clicked “I don’t know this person” when they received your LinkedIn connection request.

Few LinkedIn members set their profiles to connect with Email address only, therefore most of the time this requirement stems from using the Friend option to often and worse yet, when Friend is not the most relevant relationship option to use.

There is a way to withdraw a LinkedIn connection request; however it does not necessarily resolve the requirement for email address when sending “Friend” connection requests.

Additionally, if LinkedIn imposes a restriction because you have not been sending appropriate connection requests, you can ask for Forgiveness. It may work; however I have heard where it takes numerous attempts at begging for forgiveness before the restriction gets lifted.

Best Practices for LinkedIn connection requests

For these reasons I recommend the following:

  • Never use the relationship option of “Friend” unless you have met face to face and giggled about something. Likely you are really friends if you have giggled together.
  • If you know the LinkedIn member’s email address, always use “Other” and the email address. This is the most specific option and likely the most relevant.
  • Only use “Classmate” if you knew the LinkedIn member when you both were in the school you selected, or if you can write a very specific personal note for the LinkedIn member you are trying to connect with.
  • Only use “Colleague” if you knew the LinkedIn member when you both worked at the company you select, or again, if you can write a compelling personal note.
  • Only use “We’ve done business together” if the LinkedIn member you are trying to connect with was involved in the project you worked on.
  • Only use “Group” if the other five options are not more relevant.

Make your LinkedIn connection requests work for you

If you are deliberate about your connection request activity you will not be blacklisted by LinkedIn and forced to use an email address for all “Friend” connection requests.

Make connecting beneficial, relevant, transparent and easy.

If you want more information about how to connect on LinkedIn, read this article – How to Make LinkedIn connections

LinkedIn Connections with Interviewers

LinkedIn Connections with Interviewers

LinkedIn ConnectionsWade S. asked me two questions today about:

LinkedIn Connections with Interviewers and Recruiters

#1 – Before an interview should I send a LinkedIn connection request to the hiring manager, interviewer or recruiter?


#2 – After an interview should I send a LinkedIn connect request to the interviewers?

The answer to both questions is Yes, make LinkedIn Connections with interviewers, recruiters, hiring managers and HR professionals, under the standard conditions of connecting on LinkedIn.

First of all, I encourage you to connect with anyone you meet in life, career, business or community who are relevant to you and what you do or want to do. All of the people you meet during your job search, including recruiters, interviewers and hiring managers are relevant to you, therefore they should make good LinkedIn connections.

Often I hear this, “I did not get the job, they won’t want to connect with me.” This is not completely true. It could be true, but only if you and the interviewer did not get along at all during the interview. However, if the interview went well and you were a good candidate the interviewer, recruiters and/or hiring managers would likely want to connect in case another opportunity arises.

Making LinkedIn Connections

Therefore, I encourage you make the LinkedIn connections in this way:

#1 – Before the interview, if you know the email addresses of the individuals you are interviewing with, send them a LinkedIn connection request. Let them know in the Personal Note box that you look forward to meeting them during the interview process.

#2 – After the interview, if you know the email address of the individuals you met with, send them a LinkedIn connection request and thank them for the opportunity to discuss the position.

In both instances, ask for nothing beyond the connection. LinkedIn connection requests are only to be used to make connections.

Who knows, you may be able to help the recruiter, interviewer or hiring manager in some way, despite not getting the job. Be focused on making connections that are mutually beneficial and you never know what could happen.

Do you have a Social Media Success Story to share?

Social Media Success Story

We are waiting to hear your Social Media Success Story

Please share your Social Media Success Story with us.

While writing the book Success Using Social Media I collected lots of good social media stories. I will continue to collect and share these stories.

And I will be forever indebted to you for Sharing your Social Media Success Story with us.

This book is all about how individuals should contribute, collaborate and connect using social media. The focus of the book is engaging to create connections that turn into relationships that are mutually beneficial. It ties into my first book, “Networking for Mutual Benefit“.

The book is a compilation of all of the material that I have been teaching at Universities, Community Colleges, businesses, non-profits and to individuals for the past 4 years.

Do you have a Social Media Success Story you would be willing to share with us?

I’d love to hear your story about a new business relationship, a new job, even a fabulous social media group you joined that positively changed your life, career, business or community.

If you have this story, please email me the story –

If you want to see the stories that I’ve already collected, view this article – Social Media Success Stories.


How To – Making LinkedIn Connections

Making LinkedIn connectionsMaking LinkedIn connections

A LinkedIn connection can be a great way to expand the awareness of who you are and what you are all about.

Make connections using the principles of TRUHE (transparent, relevant, useful, honest & engaging) and LinkedIn connections can become mutually beneficial.

Remember these rules of Making LinkedIn Connections:

  • Do not send LinkedIn connection requests to people you do not know. Knowing someone does not mean you had shaken hands or talked. You just have to know enough about the person to send a connection request, and they need to know enough about you to make accept the connection request.
  • Your goal is to make meaningful and mutually beneficial connections on LinkedIn. You do not want to just collect connections, despite anything anyone tells you. There is no mutual benefit in doing this and if you try it people will begin to ignore you.

In this post are two of the key sets of activities of Making LinkedIn connections

  • How to find relevant people
  • How to make a connection

Step 1  – How to find People on LinkedIn

There are 6 ways to find People on LinkedIn. Finding someone on LinkedIn is the first step:

  1. Search for their Name in the Search Box on the Home page of LinkedIn. Type the name slowly and don’t press enter or Click Search too quickly. Sometimes if you have the name exactly as they entered it into LI the individual profile will show in the popup list. If not, click on the Search Icon and LI will bring up a full list of possible names.
  2. You can use Advanced Search in the event you don’t know how they spelled their name. In Advanced Search you can look for someone in lots of different ways. First Name, Last Name, Company, Location, Title, etc, etc.
  3. Peruse your existing connections and their connections. The list can not be “searched”, but it is in alphabetical order by last name. Once you find a name you can look at their public profile to determine A) it’s the right Person and B) they are someone you know or want to know.
  4. Search the Members of Groups you are in. Group Member lists have an Advanced Search function similar to the Advanced Search on the Home Page of LinkedIn.
  5. Search for a Company and then peruse the list of Employees. Company Employee lists are also searchable after you click on “See all Employees in your Network.
  6. Last (& the least relationship building way) – Peruse the “People you May Know” section of LinkedIn (usually on the right column of the home page.

Step 2  – Requesting a LinkedIn Connection

Remember the rules from above about Making LinkedIn Connections

  1. If you use the “People you May Know” section of LinkedIn, only send them a connect request from there if you are 100% sure you know the person and they know you. Use this too often without making a connection and LinkedIn could Restrict your account. Always type in a TRUHE Personal Note to the individual.
  2. Use the Connect Button from an individual’s Profile Page. This is the best way to send out a LinkedIn connect request because you can see their Profile and you can select a relevant “How do you Know” choice as well as see some of their profile in order to type in a really TRUHE® Personal Note to the individual.
  3. What to do if you do not know the person – LinkedIn has a function that allows you to send an Introduction Request. I suggest that you do not use this function. Instead do this:
    1. Look and see what mutual connections you have
    2. Either call or email one of them and ask them
      1. How well do they know the person you want to connect with
      2. Is this person someone you think I should connect with.
      3. If they do not know the person well, then do not ask for an introduction, instead, check with another mutual connection, if one exists.
      4. If they know this person well and they agree the person would be a good connection, ask them to do the next step
      5. Ask your friend to send an email (outside of LinkedIn) to the person you want to connect with, have them CC: you on the message. Ask them to introduce you to this person in a polite, friendly & professional manner. Ask them to at least accept the LinkedIn connection, or better yet, to talk with you soon.
    3. The Benefit of this type of an introduction is that it’s far more personal (even if via email) and it get’s you the person’s email address.
    4. Once you receive the email, wait a day or so for a reply from the future connection and then follow up with your own email
    5. Lastly in this process – Send a LinkedIn connection request using Other and their email address. In the Personal Note – mention your friend and a relevant reason for the connection request.
  4. Another process you can use to make LinkedIn connections is to email the people you know and introduce them to your LinkedIn Profile.  In your message indicate that you are excited about using LinkedIn to share knowledge, ideas and that you want your professional connections & friends to join you there. Put your LinkedIn Custom URL in the body of the message and ask them to check out LinkedIn and your Profile and to send you a LinkedIn connection request if they want to join you on LinkedIn.

LinkedIn is a great place to build your circle of contacts as long as you stay TRUHE to the purpose of Mutually Beneficial.

Please remember these tips on Making LinkedIn connections

You can read more articles about LinkedIn thru the How to use LinkedIn Listing

If you want to learn more, please reach out to me in LinkedIn thru my Personal Profile or Company Page. Email me at TLBurriss@TeddyBurriss if you need to.

The Diversity of our life connections

DIversityDiversity is of our connections is important

Diversity creates opportunities and options

One of the greatest benefits of connecting with people in life can be the diversity of these connections.

There are many reasons that diversity can be beneficial to our lives.

Here are a few that I can think of quickly:

Diversity of our connections is what helps us to find new solutions to tasks, a new job, new business possibilities and new friends.

Diversity of our connections can help us find new products, resources, business tools and even employees.

Diversity of our connections can be a source of new conversations, music, books or movie ideas, vacation possibilities and even ideas for a different car, pet, hair style or home decorations.

Diversity can be fuel for a better life, career, business or community activities.

I could go on and on regarding the value of having diversity in our connections, both in real life as well as on social media.

However, if we are not careful we could throttle or limit this diversity. When we limit our connections to specific groups of people, we create barriers to the possibilities that diversity can create.

In early 2013 I talked with a young professional who told me this, “I will not connect with anyone on LinkedIn who is not a customer or potential customer. I don’t want to connect with people who can not become a client of mine.” I quietly wept when I heard this.

We have no idea how the diverse people in our lives can help us in our career, business or community. Limiting our connections limits the possibilities.

Another aspect of the diversity of our connections is that often we have no idea or control over how diverse the connections can become. Again, I feel that if we try to guide the diversity of our connections we will limit the benefits that a truly diverse circle of connections can provide us.

Regularly I get introduced to a new connection in a different industry, state or city by an existing connection that I had no idea could make this particular connection for me.

This is the power of diversity of our connections IRL as well as on social media.

Welcome Diversity in life and your connections.

Hiding on LinkedIn

Hiding my Profile

Should you be Hiding on LinkedIn?

LinkedIn profiles and different parts of your profile can be hidden from everyone, if you want. However, hiding may not be the best the thing to do, if your intent is to connect with others.

There are 5 settings on LinkedIn that you could use to be Hiding on LinkedIn.


#1 – If you want to be Hiding on LinkedIn, Hiding your Public Profile – Edit Here –

Hiding on LinkedIn

You can hide all of or specific parts of your public Profile. Your Public Profile is what LinkedIn members, not connected to you, will see.

Should you hide your Public Profile?

Maybe. If you are not interested in connecting with new people or if you don’t use LinkedIn at your current job and don’t want your boss or fellow employees to see it

I prefer to let my Public PRofile to be seen by everyone. This is how I get good connections and meet new people who can help me at my job and community work

# 2 – If you want to be Hiding on LinkedIn, Hide my Activity Broadcasts – Edit here

hide-broadcastsOften LinkedIn coaches suggest that you hide your LinkedIn Activity broadcasts when you are fine tuning your LinkedIn Profile.

I want to recommend that you do not hide your broadcasts, ever. Broadcasts only show top level work you do. It does not broadcast when you change spelling.

Why show your broadcasts all the time? This is how people get to see what you are doing on  LinkedIn. If you are sharing, connecting and engaging with others in a positive way, let your connections see this activity.

#3 – If you want to be Hiding on LinkedIn, Hiding when you are looking – Edit Here

hiding when lookingWhen you look at someone else’s LinkedIn profile, you can be Seen, be Totally Anonymous or hide behind a Company or Education title. If you chose to hide behind a Company name or go Totally Anonymous, you will not be able to see who has looked at your profile. I like to let people know I have looked at their profile – it can create a new discussion or awareness that I exist and could be a good connection.

#4 – If you want to be Hiding on LinkedIn, Hide your Profile Picture – Edit Here

Hide your profile pictureYou can hide your profile picture from people you are not connected with, or who are not connected to your connections.

I like to make my LinkedIn profile picture visible to Everyone, because it helps when meeting in real life. I am easily recognizable.

#5 – If you want to be Hiding on LinkedIn, Hide your LinkedIn Connections – Edit Here

Hide LinkedIn Connections You can hide your LinkedIn connections from everyone if you want. However, your connections will always be able to see shared connections. I prefer to let my connections see each other so that where relevant and useful, I can introduce them to each other.

In summary :

If you want to be Hiding on LinkedIn, you can hide:

  1. Your Public Profile segments
  2. Your Activity
  3. When you are looking at other profiles
  4. Your Profile Picture
  5. Your connections

My challenge to you is and always has been – Why would you start using LinkedIn, a professional networking tool, if you want to hide. Hiding is counter-intuitive and significantly minimizes the value of Social Media.

Please dont hide.

If you need help using LinkedIn, or getting your employees to use LinkedIn better – reach out to me and let’s talk – Contact Me

To hide or not hide

Are you hiding your LinkedIn connections
Are you hiding your LinkedIn connections

Please read this post and then participate in the survey at the bottom.

If you are a LinkedIn user (& you should be if you are in business), then you have connections and may be wondering the same thing.

“Do I want to let my connections see all of the people I am connected to on LinkedIn?”

I get asked this question all the time, “Why do I want to share my LinkedIn connection list with all of my LinkedIn contacts?”

My opinion is to let your contacts see your connections.  However, let me show you my analytical thoughts on this question.

Neutral Reasons

  • Your LinkedIn connections are only a listing of people, not a listing of identified customers or business partners
  • A smart business person, competitor or even peer can find these names using good search techniques


  • Making your connections visible to your contacts enables the possibility of connecting  good people where relevant and beneficial to them (not you)
  • Making your connections visible shows that you are proud of the fabulous people that you are connected to


  • Some of your connections will want to ask you to introduce them to other contacts when there is little to no relevance or mutual benefit. (this happens periodically)
  • Your competitors, when connected to you (which is not that bad of a thing – another conversation), can see who else you are connected to. (likely they know who you are doing business with already)
  • Your competitors can find the names of the decision makers that you had to work hard to find for yourself. (however the hard work is creating the relationship, not just finding the name)

I decided for myself that I was OK with my competitors seeing my connections, because, again, the hard work is building the relationship, not finding the names. For me, this CON is outweighed by the PRO of letting my good connections see each other and to benefit from getting introduced to the people I know.

So, here is the question for you: Do you prefer to Hide or Not Hide your LinkedIn connections from each other? And why? Please fill out this poll for us.

If you want to act FOOLISH – I’ll Blog It

Start at the bottom and read the thread. Let me know what you would have done.

This actually happened (AGAIN)


Wow – This is a the wrong way to try to create any type of meaningful and long term relationship on LinkedIn.

Do you know who you are offering this referral fee opportunity to?
Do I know who you are or what your business is all about?
Do you know who I am and what I do?
Do you want someone like me referring your company for website work?
Do you think I want to recommend you or your business to do website work for others?
Do you know the businesses that I work with and the types of people I work with?

Steve (Not his real name) – you sent this email to the wrong guy.

I’d love for you to learn why. Maybe it’ll change your marketing activity and help you and your business.

Good luck with your activities, but no thank you.

Reach out to me if you want to learn to do this better

Teddy Burriss
On 04/25/12 9:38 AM, Steve wrote:
Ill pay you a referral fee for finding companies that need a website and/or want monthly internet marketing. Just a thought 🙂

On 04/25/12 9:04 AM, Teddy Burriss wrote:
Hello Steve. I am happy to connect on LinkedIn.

Please tell me how I can help you

On April 25, 2012 8:15 AM, Steve wrote:
I’d like to add you to my professional network.

Steve (not his real name)

BEGINNING OF STREAM (Which was a Naked LinkedIn Connection request)

A LinkedIn connection is not a relationship

Recently a student sent me this message:

“I am really interested in joining Company XYZ. I am looking for an “IN” there. I connect with Company XYZ employees via LinkedIn, but when I message them or seek insight, I get no response. I always let these people know why I would like to connect. Yet, no one is able or willing to help me. Any advice”

I talked with this student. He believes in every possible way that this business is the best place for his next career step and he believes in the power of networking.

He assures me that he has been honest, transparent and polite with all of his connection requests. Nearly all of the requests for connection have been completed.

However, he is missing out on an important point: He has not worked on building a relationship with these new connections before asking for anything.

Here are a few keys to remember regarding building relationships that hopefully become mutually beneficial.

1) Have an IRL (in real life) conversation with them.
Invite your new relevant LinkedIn contact out to coffee, lunch or an after 5 drink.
Or, ask if you can visit them at their office. Sometimes you can position an onsite visit as a tour or maybe just to learn more about their job, department or business.

Regardless of where, the first meeting has to be all about them. Nothing, I repeat, nothing about you until asked, and even then you have to keep it simple. And, don’t ask about a job opening or request to meet someone else, yet.

2) Work on learning more about your contact.
Learning about them as an individual is the most important thing you can do.
Interesting personal facts like:
Do they have kids or Grandkids?
Are they married and if so, how long?
What does their spouse do?
What is their favorite past time? sports, fishing, photography, painting, etc, etc
Why did they get into the business they are in? How do they like what they do? Why?
Did they move from another country, state or region?

There are hundreds of different questions that can be used to start working on building a relationship. The key is to ask honest transparent questions and show them that you are both interested and listening. Be genuine with the questions you ask. Being fake shows thru like lightening in the dark, and it ruins any chance of a relationship just as quickly.

Also, do some research about your contact before meeting and talking. Fodder is good stuff when getting together to talk.

3) Find out something that is real important to them.
This is not hard to do. It will be the one thing that makes them the most animated or excited during the very causal conversation they are having with you.

You may find that during your casual conversation that there are areas of interest or experience that are relevant to you as well.

4) As you learn about your contact, and you start to develop the simplest of relationships, ask them if there is anything you can do for them.
If they offer up a need that is personal, this is the best way to help them and to build a relationship. If they ask for no help, ask if there is anyone they know who could benefit from your talents, skills, resources or friendship.

Regardless of the help they ask for, if you can help them directly or indirectly by introducing them to someone else, plan to do it as quickly and completely as you can. And do It!

Now, here is when more often than not, you can benefit from the relationship that is developing.

Generally (not always, but mostly), they will in turn ask something like, “how can I help you?”

Be honest with your new friend and say, “I want to know more about the department or business.” Tell them that you think this is a place where you could see yourself working one day. Ask them who else you should meet.

You are far likely to get a good name and contact information from your new friend after you begin building a relationship with them.

In Summary:

A LinkedIn connection by itself does not make a relationship.
You need to develop a relationship before you have the right to ask for anything
Develop a relationship by listening and when possible, help them directly or indirectly.
Then and only then can you ask for anything.

Quality LinkedIn Recommendations

LinkedIn recommendations are better than Silver and Gold, especially when you are seeking a new job or that next great business opportunity or relationship thru LinkedIn.

There are three ways to get and manage recommendations on LinkedIn. 2 of these are way wrong:

1) Send an email or LinkedIn recommendation request to just about anyone and ask them to recommend you on LinkedIn, then accept them as fast as possible – NOT!

2) Send a LinkedIn Recommendation request to your business partners and customers and ask them to recommend you on LinkedIn and then accept them as fast as possible – NOT!

3) I  prefer and recommend the following activities to get good worthwhile recommendations and to manage them for the best result:

Create a list of business partners & clients who you respect and who respect you as well. These folks have to be LinkedIn connections, so if they are not, make that happen first.

Include in your list an area of business where you worked with these individuals and/or their staff and you created great value and/or provided a service that met & exceeded all of there initial expectations. Write down specifics and be clear.

If at all possible, list the financial value of this work, product or service.

Make sure to include the period in time and any other information that relates to the value of the work, product or service.

Next, send a LinkedIn recommendation request to each individual in your list (individually) and include a message in this style:

Example – “Dear Steve, please think back to this past month when we worked on the Sales Process design project together. When we finished you told me that the work I provided your company thru managing the project and documenting all of the details of the processes helped you save nearly $3,000,000 in staffing costs because your staff productivity soared. You thought that my project management professionalism and documentation skills were key to this work. Would you honor me by recommending me on LinkedIn regarding this specific project and the savings your business created from it?”

Repeat this step for each person on your list with the specifics of each business involvement.

Do not send out more than 1 or 2 a week. Max! And, when you first start out, only accept 1 or 2 recommendations a week. You can leave a recommendation sit for weeks on end to be accepted later. (Don’t leave recommendations longer than a few months.)

Spread them out so that the people looking at your LinkedIn Profile see knew recommendations each month or so and more importantly, they see good worthwhile recommendations relevant to you and your profession.

Mix it up when requesting and accepting recommendations so that you get a good mixture of different areas of your business and client types and spread them out so your profile viewers get a continual slow flow of good reading about your varied value to your contacts.

And, don’t respond back with a reciprocal recommendation. First of all,  you may not be able to legitimately recommend this person yourself. If you can, wait a week or so.  This helps to disperse the splashes of good information in LinkedIn’s stream.

Also, treat your recommender with the same respect you wanted them to treat you. Ask them what area of your business with them would they like you to recommend them. Again, only recommend them if you have received value or benefit from this person and their work. Don’t recommend someone, just because the tool is easy to use. Be absolutely honest.

If you get an unsolicited recommendation, you are not obligated to accept it.  You may want to consider your recommendation with the person who sent it to you. If the recommendation needs some relevant and/or grammatical revisions, ask for them before accepting the recommendation.  If the recommendation is either way off base, irrelevant or from a person you really don’t care to accept a recommendation from, don’t accept it and possibly Hide it altogether.

Treat your LinkedIn recommendations like Gold. You’ll get a great ROI from doing this task when you do it different & better than the average LinkedIn member.

Look for me if I can help you with this or any other area of LinkedIn for business developers, job seekers or business professionals.