Another LinkedIn Connection Request Failure

LinkedIn Connection Request Failure

Here is the thread from one of my most recent LinkedIn Connection Request Failures.

The guy never heard a thing I said to him.

I changed his name to protect his identity.

On August 29, 2013 10:20 PM, Making Mistakes wrote:
I’d like to add you to my professional network on LinkedIn.
– Making Mistakes

On 08/30/13 08:19AM, Teddy Burriss wrote:
Hello Making.
Please remind me where have we met and how can I help you.
Have a great weekend

On 08/30/13 6:48 AM, Making Mistakes wrote:
Hi Teddy! I reached out to you because of your profile. My company is looking to recruit 100 people in the next two weeks.

We are an internet marketing firm, offering work at home opportunities, as we gear up for the launch of our new mobile app in September.

If you would like me to send you information on how you might be considered for one these work at home positions, just send your email to my inbox. If not please pardon the intrusion.

Sent from LinkedIn for iPhone

On 08/30/13 09:59AM, Teddy Burriss wrote:
No thank you.

I strongly encourage you to connect with people, get to know who they are and what they do before you start asking them for anything.
I am now forced to mark your LI Connect request as SPAM.
Learn to do this correctly.

On 08/30/13 7:09 AM, Making Mistakes wrote:
That is your prerogative Mr. Burriss. I contacted you because we felt that you had skills that could benefit the readers of our blogs. Please pardon the intrusion.
Sent from LinkedIn for iPhone

On 08/30/13 11:06AM, Teddy Burriss wrote:
Making – be consistent, this is not what you said in your first message, “We are an internet marketing firm, offering work at home opportunities, as we gear up for the launch of our new mobile app in September. ”

You can not do this on social media. Doing this type of activity is spamming and totally inappropriate.

I am a social media coach and am deliberate about my activity on LinkedIn. If you need coaching please let me know. I can help you if you are willing to learn how to do this correctly.


Blog Author Note:

Watch this – He goes even further into a LinkedIn Connection Request Failure

On 08/30/13 8:17 AM, Making Mistakes wrote:
There is no doubt that you know more about my industry than I do Sir, again that is why I contacted you. I am not spamming you, I am conversing with you.

I am recruiting for the Dream Team of the Empower Network. I wish you would check out this video from our founder, not as a potential customer, but as an expert in the industry. I really welcome your feedback.
Thank you and again, please forgive the intrusion.
Sent from LinkedIn for iPhone

On 08/30/13 1:39 PM, Teddy Burriss wrote:
Making – your messages and manner of communicating with me is not an intrusion. You miss my point. Your methodology is not going to work for you.

Furthermore, sending me a link to a video from a guy in front of a home that smacks of conspicuous consumption, with income disclaimers and refund policies listed on the front page also gives me the perception that the products & services are not as real as the messages & videos are intended to lead me to believe.

Robert – I am a social networking communications consultant. I teach relationship building using social media. I teach people not to do what you insist on doing:

Not once have you inquired as to who I am.
Not once have you mentioned anything you learned from my profile or any of my other social networking profiles.
Not once have you asked me about my business
Not once have you inquired as to how you could help me in any way
Your LinkedIn profile shows a recent grad who used to work for Amex (?) and says nothing about the stuff you are hawking through the un-invited messages to people who don’t trust and respect you.
You are not following the terms & conditions of XYZ, since no where in your messages to me did you identify yourself as an XYZ Affiliate. ( Mistakes#do-dont)

All you want to do is entice me to look at your videos and get all gaga about what you do.

I teach Networking for Mutual Benefit and using Social Media to build relationships. This is how I have gotten successful in life and able to live the type of lifestyle that I enjoy today. Never have I had to use this type of communications with the hopes of luring someone into a conversation about a product or service.

I wish you lots of success in the MLM you have chosen to participate in. I have no problems with transparent, honest and open MLM programs; however when the MLM starts with watch a video from some guy living in a big house and the website has disclaimers and refund statements on the front page – I have to consider it less than mutually beneficial.

I have taken up far too much of your time since I know your upstream guys are telling you to ignore me and move on to the next person.

Please accept my apologies for wanting to coach a young professional to be better and different.

Ps – as a Career Transition Coach I see lots of unemployed folks getting lured into these MLM programs every day. Unless you are passionate about the product and work you are told to do – it’s not going to work. Promises of great wealth is not the reason to start a job or business.

Have a good weekend.

Blog Author Note – I hoped he would hear me, but he doesn’t

He continues with a LinkedIn Connection Request Failure

On 08/31/13 1:17 AM, Making Mistakes wrote:

Thank you so much for your reply Mr. Burriss. It really is much appreciated. I am so sorry that I offended you.

The product of XYZ is internet marketing via SEO education. The delivery of our product is through our viral blogging system. XYZ is not a multi-level marketing business, it is an affiliate marketing system.

As you know, search engines search for text and not video, which is why Google purchased YouTube. The XYZ strategy is to write our blogs based on keyword search and place, video in each blog for this new generation that does not read.

God has given everyone a gift and talent to share with the world. Empower gives everyone that ability, and know how, that has been reserved for select few, like yourself, until now. We are a network of entrepreneurs that daily share our expertise to the world, with the goal of positioning ourselves as the expert online. Empower teaches you how to make money doing this while teaching others to do it. I was just hoping you would share your expertise on your network

My business is not blogging, my business is real estate and insurance, but God told me that for this business, He is the product. My personal page with my Blogs is Jesus was a Carpenter, Paul was a Tentmaker, Luke was a doctor. My blogs are going to focus on believers in the marketplace, along with my real estate, and economic expertise.

The reason for the long note to show my intention was not to offend but to show you something that could possibly enhance what you are already doing.

Thank you and God Bless.

I opted not to engage with any further.

Please don’t make LinkedIn Connection Request Failures

What would you have done?

Here is another example of LinkedIn Connection Request Failure

LinkedIn connection requests require an email address – OOPS

LinkedIn Connection Requests

LinkedIn connection requestsThere are three reasons why you could be required to use an email address when sending LinkedIn connection requests

  1. The LinkedIn member you are trying to connect with requires this
  2. You have exceeded the number of LinkedIn connection requests you are allowed to use with the relationship option of “Friend”
  3. A number of LinkedIn members have clicked “I don’t know this person” when they received your LinkedIn connection request.

Few LinkedIn members set their profiles to connect with Email address only, therefore most of the time this requirement stems from using the Friend option to often and worse yet, when Friend is not the most relevant relationship option to use.

There is a way to withdraw a LinkedIn connection request; however it does not necessarily resolve the requirement for email address when sending “Friend” connection requests.

Additionally, if LinkedIn imposes a restriction because you have not been sending appropriate connection requests, you can ask for Forgiveness. It may work; however I have heard where it takes numerous attempts at begging for forgiveness before the restriction gets lifted.

Best Practices for LinkedIn connection requests

For these reasons I recommend the following:

  • Never use the relationship option of “Friend” unless you have met face to face and giggled about something. Likely you are really friends if you have giggled together.
  • If you know the LinkedIn member’s email address, always use “Other” and the email address. This is the most specific option and likely the most relevant.
  • Only use “Classmate” if you knew the LinkedIn member when you both were in the school you selected, or if you can write a very specific personal note for the LinkedIn member you are trying to connect with.
  • Only use “Colleague” if you knew the LinkedIn member when you both worked at the company you select, or again, if you can write a compelling personal note.
  • Only use “We’ve done business together” if the LinkedIn member you are trying to connect with was involved in the project you worked on.
  • Only use “Group” if the other five options are not more relevant.

Make your LinkedIn connection requests work for you

If you are deliberate about your connection request activity you will not be blacklisted by LinkedIn and forced to use an email address for all “Friend” connection requests.

Make connecting beneficial, relevant, transparent and easy.

If you want more information about how to connect on LinkedIn, read this article – How to Make LinkedIn connections

LinkedIn Connections with Interviewers

LinkedIn Connections with Interviewers

LinkedIn ConnectionsWade S. asked me two questions today about:

LinkedIn Connections with Interviewers and Recruiters

#1 – Before an interview should I send a LinkedIn connection request to the hiring manager, interviewer or recruiter?


#2 – After an interview should I send a LinkedIn connect request to the interviewers?

The answer to both questions is Yes, make LinkedIn Connections with interviewers, recruiters, hiring managers and HR professionals, under the standard conditions of connecting on LinkedIn.

First of all, I encourage you to connect with anyone you meet in life, career, business or community who are relevant to you and what you do or want to do. All of the people you meet during your job search, including recruiters, interviewers and hiring managers are relevant to you, therefore they should make good LinkedIn connections.

Often I hear this, “I did not get the job, they won’t want to connect with me.” This is not completely true. It could be true, but only if you and the interviewer did not get along at all during the interview. However, if the interview went well and you were a good candidate the interviewer, recruiters and/or hiring managers would likely want to connect in case another opportunity arises.

Making LinkedIn Connections

Therefore, I encourage you make the LinkedIn connections in this way:

#1 – Before the interview, if you know the email addresses of the individuals you are interviewing with, send them a LinkedIn connection request. Let them know in the Personal Note box that you look forward to meeting them during the interview process.

#2 – After the interview, if you know the email address of the individuals you met with, send them a LinkedIn connection request and thank them for the opportunity to discuss the position.

In both instances, ask for nothing beyond the connection. LinkedIn connection requests are only to be used to make connections.

Who knows, you may be able to help the recruiter, interviewer or hiring manager in some way, despite not getting the job. Be focused on making connections that are mutually beneficial and you never know what could happen.

Video – How to use LinkedIn Profile

LinkedIn Profile SectionsLinkedIn Profile Sections – improve your profile

Your LinkedIn Profile can be customized in many different ways.

One feature often underused are LinkedIn Profile Sections.

Here are the LinkedIn Profile Sections.

  • Experience
  • Education
  • Skills
  • Summary
  • Projects
  • Languages
  • Publications
  • Organizations
  • Honors & Awards
  • Test Scores
  • Courses
  • Patents
  • Certifications
  • Volunteering & Causes

The information you showcase in these LinkedIn Profile Sections should be relevant to your current position or career or to the job that you

Here is a little video with more information about LinkedIn Profile Sections


Your LinkedIn Profile Photo Gets you seen

LinkedIn Profile Photo will get you seen

LinkedIn Profile

So you don’t think you need a LinkedIn Profile Photo?

Lots of my connections have gotten new jobs, updated their LinkedIn profile or received recommendations. However the only ones that LinkedIn included in this message is the ones with a LinkedIn Profile Picture.

Don’t spend a lot of money getting a profile picture taken. Brush your hair, stand in a well lit area and put a smile on your face. Make sure the camera is at least as good as an Iphone or Droid (Hi-Res) (approx 450×450 pixels and < 4MB).

Here are three reasons to have a LinkedIn Profile picture

#1 – When you are seen in the public, the connections that you do not see often may recognize you

#2 – Having a Social Media Profile Picture is considered just a little vulnerable. It shows others that you want to connect. Many people perceive that not having a picture is like hiding.

#3 – When LinkedIn sends out it’s member activity your activity will be included in the graphical message. A great way to be heard, seen and perceived as a professional.

Get your LinkedIn Profile Picture now.

Look at this Listing of LinkedIn articles for more ideas of how to use LinkedIn better


How To – Making LinkedIn Connections

Making LinkedIn connectionsMaking LinkedIn connections

A LinkedIn connection can be a great way to expand the awareness of who you are and what you are all about.

Make connections using the principles of TRUHE (transparent, relevant, useful, honest & engaging) and LinkedIn connections can become mutually beneficial.

Remember these rules of Making LinkedIn Connections:

  • Do not send LinkedIn connection requests to people you do not know. Knowing someone does not mean you had shaken hands or talked. You just have to know enough about the person to send a connection request, and they need to know enough about you to make accept the connection request.
  • Your goal is to make meaningful and mutually beneficial connections on LinkedIn. You do not want to just collect connections, despite anything anyone tells you. There is no mutual benefit in doing this and if you try it people will begin to ignore you.

In this post are two of the key sets of activities of Making LinkedIn connections

  • How to find relevant people
  • How to make a connection

Step 1  – How to find People on LinkedIn

There are 6 ways to find People on LinkedIn. Finding someone on LinkedIn is the first step:

  1. Search for their Name in the Search Box on the Home page of LinkedIn. Type the name slowly and don’t press enter or Click Search too quickly. Sometimes if you have the name exactly as they entered it into LI the individual profile will show in the popup list. If not, click on the Search Icon and LI will bring up a full list of possible names.
  2. You can use Advanced Search in the event you don’t know how they spelled their name. In Advanced Search you can look for someone in lots of different ways. First Name, Last Name, Company, Location, Title, etc, etc.
  3. Peruse your existing connections and their connections. The list can not be “searched”, but it is in alphabetical order by last name. Once you find a name you can look at their public profile to determine A) it’s the right Person and B) they are someone you know or want to know.
  4. Search the Members of Groups you are in. Group Member lists have an Advanced Search function similar to the Advanced Search on the Home Page of LinkedIn.
  5. Search for a Company and then peruse the list of Employees. Company Employee lists are also searchable after you click on “See all Employees in your Network.
  6. Last (& the least relationship building way) – Peruse the “People you May Know” section of LinkedIn (usually on the right column of the home page.

Step 2  – Requesting a LinkedIn Connection

Remember the rules from above about Making LinkedIn Connections

  1. If you use the “People you May Know” section of LinkedIn, only send them a connect request from there if you are 100% sure you know the person and they know you. Use this too often without making a connection and LinkedIn could Restrict your account. Always type in a TRUHE Personal Note to the individual.
  2. Use the Connect Button from an individual’s Profile Page. This is the best way to send out a LinkedIn connect request because you can see their Profile and you can select a relevant “How do you Know” choice as well as see some of their profile in order to type in a really TRUHE® Personal Note to the individual.
  3. What to do if you do not know the person – LinkedIn has a function that allows you to send an Introduction Request. I suggest that you do not use this function. Instead do this:
    1. Look and see what mutual connections you have
    2. Either call or email one of them and ask them
      1. How well do they know the person you want to connect with
      2. Is this person someone you think I should connect with.
      3. If they do not know the person well, then do not ask for an introduction, instead, check with another mutual connection, if one exists.
      4. If they know this person well and they agree the person would be a good connection, ask them to do the next step
      5. Ask your friend to send an email (outside of LinkedIn) to the person you want to connect with, have them CC: you on the message. Ask them to introduce you to this person in a polite, friendly & professional manner. Ask them to at least accept the LinkedIn connection, or better yet, to talk with you soon.
    3. The Benefit of this type of an introduction is that it’s far more personal (even if via email) and it get’s you the person’s email address.
    4. Once you receive the email, wait a day or so for a reply from the future connection and then follow up with your own email
    5. Lastly in this process – Send a LinkedIn connection request using Other and their email address. In the Personal Note – mention your friend and a relevant reason for the connection request.
  4. Another process you can use to make LinkedIn connections is to email the people you know and introduce them to your LinkedIn Profile.  In your message indicate that you are excited about using LinkedIn to share knowledge, ideas and that you want your professional connections & friends to join you there. Put your LinkedIn Custom URL in the body of the message and ask them to check out LinkedIn and your Profile and to send you a LinkedIn connection request if they want to join you on LinkedIn.

LinkedIn is a great place to build your circle of contacts as long as you stay TRUHE to the purpose of Mutually Beneficial.

Please remember these tips on Making LinkedIn connections

You can read more articles about LinkedIn thru the How to use LinkedIn Listing

If you want to learn more, please reach out to me in LinkedIn thru my Personal Profile or Company Page. Email me at TLBurriss@TeddyBurriss if you need to.

Managing LinkedIn Endorsements

LI-Skills-ExpertiseLinkedIn Endorsements are all about Feel Good

The new LinkedIn Endorsements can be a good way to have the people you work with share their endorsement of the skills you have.

However, sometimes your LinkedIn connections endorse you for skills that are not relevant to who you are today. Additionally, your LinkedIn connections may endorse you for a skill that they really can’t speak to honestly.

LinkedIn Endorsements All of this being said, I suggest we consider LinkedIn Endorsements nothing more than “Feel good with an opportunity for a conversation.”

LinkedIn Endorsements are an opportunity for a conversation.

Don’t you feel good when someone endorses you? Don’t you feel good when you endorse someone else? Don’t you want to thank people who endorse you?

Note – Please only endorse someone for a skill that you have specific knowledge of.

I use endorsements as a reason for a phone call, an email or a LinkedIn message. And each time I always end with the conversation with, “Thank you for the endorsement. What can I do to help you?” Feel good with an opportunity for a conversation.

Give LinkedIn Endorsements when you can do so honestly.

By the way, if you want to really make a LinkedIn connection happy, give them a LinkedIn Recommendation with out being asked.

By the way, you can reject and/or remove an endorsement. Here is a video that shows you how to do this


LinkedIn Introductions

This is a replacement for my original post.

LinkedIn Introduction

LinkedIn Introductions

A powerful way to use LinkedIn is to make

LinkedIn Introductions

I personally prefer to make introductions outside of LinkedIn. I prefer this method because I get to confirm my relationship with the person I am asking to make the introduction and I get to confirm their relationship with the person I need an introduction to. I refer to this as a more personal and less sanitary introduction. Read LinkedIn Connections

However LinkedIn has made this feature available to you. Therefore if you are going to use it, let me give you some tips to get the best value from LinkedIn Introductions.

#1 – Never ask for a LinkedIn Introduction of someone you do not know well. You need to have a good relationship with this person so that they make the best possible introduction.

#2 – When you send the LinkedIn Introduction request, make sure you use words in your request message that you want the person you are seeking an introduction to will appreciate. So don’t write, “Dude, you owe me a beer and an into because I made 3 for you last month.” Heck, don’t barter intro requests at all, let alone say it.

#3 – Don’t abuse your connections with repeated and irrelevant LinkedIn Introduction requests. Your connections are not there to answer to your every beckon & call. Treat them with respect, just as you would want them to treat you.

#4 – When you ask for an introduction, be clear with your contact about the reason you want an introduction. The reason should be relevant, honest and guided by the desire to create a mutually beneficial relationship, not just to SELL something to the person you want an intro to. Remember, selling comes later.

At the end of the day, your value in LinkedIn is your relationships with your contacts. Follow the mantra of “People helping Others”, be honest & fair and your value will increase with your contacts.

Strive to always make TRUHE (Transparent, Relevant, Useful, Honest & Engaging) LinkedIn Introductions.

Here is a quick video on how to use LinkedIn Introductions


Creating a LinkedIn Company Page

LinkedIn Company PageA LinkedIn Company Page is a great way to promote your business.

Your LinkedIn Company Page is a fabulous way to showcase your consultancy business or coaching business.

A LinkedIn Company Page can even add value to your business marketing strategy.

There are a few pre-requisites that you need to consider prior to beginning to build your LinkedIn Company Page.

  1. You must have a private domain email account.
    1. This can not be a,,,, email account. You will have to register a domain name with one of the domain registrars and setup your email through one of the cloud based email services or self-host your own email server (I don’t recommend this for solo-preneurs.)
    2. Consider contacting Google, Microsoft, or Other cloud based hosting service that allows you to use your own Domain Name.
    3. Recommendation – forward your other email accounts into this one private domain email account for simplicity
  2. You will need various images for your Company Page Logo, small logo & banner images, products/services. These images have various sizes, so know how to create your own images (I don’t recommend this), or know a good graphic artist who can help you create & modify these images.
  3. You will need to know how to describe your business and services in well crafted words. If you are not a wordsmith, know a good editor/writer who can help you craft these messages.
  4. LinkedIn company pages can redirect to your company websites thru image hyperlinks and direct redirect links. If you have a company or business website, consider how your website is setup in regards to your LinkedIn Company Page and related hyperlinks.

Use Add Company Page link on the Company area of LinkedIn to create a new Company Page. You will need to validate your Company Email address prior to finalizing your LinkedIn Company Page.

You can assign multiple Page Administrators to your LinkedIn Company Page. I suggest you have two or three administrators who will work together to build and manage your LinkedIn Company Page. Don’t try to build a page in a vacuum or by yourself.

If you need help determining your LinkedIn Company Page strategy and setup, reach out to me and let’s talk. I love to help companies get value out of their LinkedIn use and presence.

Contact Me if you want to talk

LinkedIn Groups – Gold Mine or Not

Gold mine or notWhat do you think? – Gold Mine or Not

LinkedIn Groups are Gold Mines, when used properly.

 Gold Mines are not for pillaging

LinkedIn Groups are great for connecting, contributing, collaborating and cramming. Used properly you can create connections that can turn into relationships that could develop into conversations that open the door for opportunities.  If you use LinkedIn Groups incorrectly, all you do is frustrate the members of the group and yourself because you fail to follow a successful path.

What do you think of this use of LinkedIn groups?

LinkedIn Message from a fellow Group Member

On 05/09/13 7:43 PM, {Name delelted to protect} wrote:

Hello !

I saw you here in the {Group name deleted to protect} and you seem like a sharp business professional so I wanted to reach out to you.

I’m sure you would agree that if there was a opportunity to get paid by simply helping people save money on gas, it would be a goldmine. There is a patented and proven technology saving people money on gas that huge companies have been using for years. Just recently, it was released to the general public and there is a HUGE opportunity for the right individuals.

I’m looking to partner with some like-minded individuals so if you’re open to another income stream, here’s a short video explaining our business.

7 minute video:
http://{URL deleted to protect you}

Please call me if you have any questions…. would like more information, or see an opportunity for yourself.

{Name Deleted}
{Grandiose Title Deleted}
{MLM Company Named Deleted}
Mobile/Office: {Phone number Deleted}
Email: {Email Address Deleted}
Website: www.{Web Address Deleted}.com


Here is my response – Do you think I was fair?

Hello {name deleted} – I hope you can accept that I do not agree with you that “getting paid by simply helping people save money on gas, it would be a goldmine.”

I wish you lots of success selling these products, I am sure they provide lots of value to the consumer.

Have a great Friday.



I love using LinkedIn and believe it is a Gold Mine for me, because I use it differently and politely